If this statement comes from a heterosexual, it possibly is true. One has to taken into account the limited understanding a heterosexual man has about sex. Just to remind you, having sex means a lot of preparation. First, one has to find out if PMS is far away. Second, women like to have it romantic, just a movie is not longer enough. Probably a nice dinner at a fancy place. And no, McDonalds does not count. Finally home, after endless forced smalltalk, one should not forget foreplay. Being direct equals being a jerk. After getting the final go signal from the lady, there may be a minute or two of the fun. Hopefully, there is no talk afterwards and one gets the well deserved sleep.
Do you know any kid, who wants that? Of course not. Hence, the heterosexual is right in his statement, and does not know how wrong he is. Kids are born with zero knowledge about intimacy and sexuality. But they are born with a soft skin, which is one continuous erogenous zone. Even tickling the nose produces that funny feeling in the stomach. They like that one, and want it as often as possible. Getting physical affection creates the feeling of belonging together, being cared for. In addition they couldn't care less about that artificial demarcation line, which for adults divides intimacy from sexuality. Kids know what they want. And if they want something, they want it now, this very instant. If you don't believe me, just take one kid to the candy shelf. Moreover, they let you know quite clearly when they no longer want something. One can simply not miss it. Try feeding brokoli. How an adult came up with the idea that kids don't know what they want, is simply incomprehensible to me.
The problem of communicating ideas with words is that they mean different things to different people. When the concept of sexuality got reduced to procreation, much of it's richness got lost - at least for heterosexuals.
So please, next time, when you talk to heterosexuals about the needs kids have, remember this! Use simple words and avoid the one term, for which they have a totally screwed understanding!
